A woman wants to know if she is wrong to charge her granddaughter to live in a house where she lets her daughter live, rent-free.
Posting on the “r/AmItheA–hole” (AITA) subreddit, the woman, 47, explained the situation that led her to decide to charge her granddaughter to stay in an apartment she and her husband own.
In her Reddit post, the woman wrote that she and her husband, 50, have a daughter, Alice, 20, who is a full-time student and also works weekends at a fast food restaurant.
“She got a scholarship for her college that covers most of the expenses, and we pay the rest,” the woman continued.
“Me and Tom [her husband] we own our apartment, we also own a second apartment where we let Alice live, so she doesn’t have to worry about the rent and can focus on her studies.”
The woman wants her granddaughter, Rose, to pay the rent on their second apartment.
The woman’s husband, Tom, has a granddaughter, Rose, 21, who is his sister’s daughter.
Rose recently moved to their area for college, and her parents live in a different state than the school she attends, which, the woman noted, is not the same college Alice is currently enrolled in. .
The woman explained that Rose has “recently run into some trouble” financially and is having trouble paying for student housing.
“The rose, as well as mine [sister-in-law], asked if he could stay with Alice for the little time she spared. “We’ve spoken to Alice and she’s fine with Rose staying with her,” the woman added.
While the woman’s husband wants his niece to stay there for free, she doesn’t agree.
The couple’s granddaughter has already agreed to “cover utilities and food,” which the woman’s husband insists is enough and that they should help her cover the rest of the expenses.
“I replied that we are helping him by giving him a place to stay and the rent would be less than the market rent,” argued the woman.
The woman’s husband objected, saying that if this was the logic they would use, then they should also set the rent for their daughter.
She stressed that “it’s completely different”, while her husband stood by his original statement, calling his wife “selfish”.
Most people who commented on the woman’s Reddit post agreed that she was wrong to make her granddaughter pay the rent.
“If it was an apartment you would have rented if not for Rose, then I’d say sure, pay her rent,” one user wrote.
“But you’re not renting it out, your daughter is already using it for free; so to me, what you’re trying to do sounds like trying to take advantage of a family member.”
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Another user chimed in, writing, “If your daughter lives there and Rose living there adds absolutely no extra cost (and she said she would cover utilities and food) then it won’t cost you anything more that she stay there.”
“It’s not like she’s taking up space that you would rent if she wasn’t there.”
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